In the normative, linear landscape of typical dating there is a natural progression that narrates any love story, meet...fall in love...marry...forsake all others, but in the world of non-monogamy where the end game is not a search for a happily-ever-after life partner, but the distillation of the connection itself, the trajectory cracks open a new dimension of intimacy. In this alternate universe it becomes solely about getting to know someone with grand permission to explore all the juicy intersections and overlaps with no specific destination in mind. There is time and space to allow and adventure into whatever chemistry appears, and what that looks like with each person is wildly unique as the equation of where you might align emotionally and/or physically can never be predictably parsed. It is always a sweet surprise.
Just as the delineation can get blurred between someone who might be considered a Friend vs. Family, there is a similar slow deconstruction of boundaries that happens now in my relationships with others. It's never about only one emotion (love), one outcome (marriage), one direction (monogamy). It is about the wide open road to whatever there is to discover beyond those tidy expectations - a whole new paradigm where I sometimes find myself searching for the right words to articulate meaning and nuance. Not Friend or Lover, but something else entirely new each time.
Alex and I will always be each other's Home, Partner, Love of This Lifetime and Next, especially as the depths of what we share together grows and expands into every new emotional space we unearth together as two individuals converging - I never knew what limitlessness one love could contain.
And so what's out there still to experience, is everything... a feast so grand and decadent it is impossible to imagine every flavor. Because relationships are as unique as people themselves, and what a gorgeous and fascinating world of humans we live in. I find myself, at times, thinking about all the people I will never get to experience and the compelling light of so many wonderful beings I'll never get to know. It is such an extraordinary thing to get to witness someone else's humanity up close, every moment like a bright and shiny gift to unwrap. A treasure hunt like no other where the reward is not something you could ever hold or claim, but rather as intimacy wants to be, is both rare and catalytic to touch and you're irrevocably and forever changed.